Pointing at your audience can do more harm than good. Folks get messages from your body language. Most of us know that ,yet we may continue to use language that can get in the way of our content. Sure, if someone really wants to get all of the marrow of information out of our bones they may submit to any body language you throw at them. But we should be concerned about HOW we say what we say.
If, for example, I am teaching folks how to blog for the first time, pointing my finger at them and telling them they will not make it unless they work at it for a while may be the truth. But it may also be what can shut them down. Their brain cells may actually get sluggish and not take in the content I am delivering.
What Some Folks Think You Are Saying When You Point Your Finger At Them
Body language expert, Patti A Wood feels that it when you point at your audience it is like shooting at them. Yet it is used often for different reasons. Read her excellent article.
There are also culturally different interpretations of finger pointing. In China for example, it may be considered offensive.
Personally, If I point a finger at someone in my audience I am careful to do it with affirmation. In other words, I may say “You will not fail” or “You have the potential for greatness”. But overall, it is a tricky gesture to use and should be avoided unless you are totally aware of what you are saying and the expected response you want to have.Overall, I like to use open-handed gestures to stay on the safe side when speaking live to an audience. Hence, I try to know my audience ahead of time.
Why Should You Care As Internet Marketers?
Many internet marketers may not maintain lasting relationships with clients when they point their fingers at them during presentations. Some folks just don’t like it. It is my opinion that it can harm the presence and connection you want with your audience.
What do you think?
You pose an interesting question. I do a lot of group facilitation in workshops and I never point. I try to be inclusive and engage each participant in the discussion.
When I see politicians point to members of the audience, my take on it is that they’re recognizing and acknowledging a friend or someone they know. However, it could make someone feel like they were “put on the spot” and might be considered offensive in some situations.
You know what they sat about pointing. “When you are pointing, there are three fingers pointed back at you. It’s an unpleasant feeling, regardless of how it is used, virtually or physically.
Thanks Pam, that has always been a powerful quote. Also, Eileen, I think the key point is how the gesture is viewed. Someone shared with me that in some cultures the hand you use to point with can also make a difference. Often you just don’t know until sommeone shares with you their concern or observations.I would be interested in knowing more of your observations. Thank you both for your insights.
I think you’re right. I teach my daughter not to point. I personally think it’s rude most of the time.